Surviving a Sandwich Generation
So when you hear the word 'sandwich generation', it means that you are a middle-aged individual (30's-40's) who cares or supports not only your children but also your parents. So it looks like this:
There have been debates about this topic whether children are obliged to support their parents. It was even asked in the Bb. Pilipinas Q&A and the contestant herself seemed confused on what to answer. She first said No then changed her answer to Yes without explaining why.
I am in a sandwich generation. It was easy at first when I was single but now that I have a family to take care of, sometimes I do not know anymore what to do especially when the problems are continuous. It's draining me not only financially but also emotionally. However, I am surviving this generation by:
1) Paying Myself First
Since I know how to budget, I make sure that I set aside an amount for myself. It doesn't matter how big or small the amount is. As long as you are keeping something for yourself then that would be a great start.
2) Talking To My Parents
When I had my own family, I talked to my parents on my limitations in helping them especially during tough times. I know my mom understands my situation but sometimes I can't resist myself because I know their situation. That's why before I give in, I make sure that my husband knows and we can repay it back to our savings the next month.
I think that's the best way to survive in such generation. It's very challenging but life is like that so we have to find a way no matter what.