Being a Stay at Home Mum (SAHM)

As mentioned in my previous blog, one of the reasons we moved down under was due to the long distance relationship we had with our son. So when we moved here, that was my first job, a SAHM but now that my son is in full time daycare for 5 days, I am now a job hunter (hehe).

Being a stay at home mum is tough especially if you are used to working and have a lot of bills to pay and is more distressing when you are in a different country with no relatives and friends to talk to. Sometimes you'll feel depressed but you can't for the sake of your family.

When we moved here, we were planning to put our son in childcare after maybe a month or two but we decided not to until he is fully adjusted. He was 3.6 years old then. We started his daycare January 2019 and he was so ready and excited by that time. He learned how to read (a few), write (more practice) and numbers (a little bit of addition) in that short span of time being with him. Compulsory education here in Australia starts when your child is 5 years old (preparatory school), Monday to Friday 9am to 3pm. School term starts in January. Daycare or kindergarten here in Australia is more on play unlike in the Philippines where at kindergarten, kids are taught how to write their name and letters. But it is ok, do not feel bad if your kids are not into it, they will learn as they grow older. I, myself, can't remember when and how I learned started reading and writing. I did not even go to kindergarten so just  let your kids enjoy themselves being kids.

Everyday being a stay at home mum can be with mixed feelings depending on how busy you are. For me, when my son was not in daycare, we had a schedule. He played in the morning after breakfast then before watching, we either do reading, writing or painting. He only watched for an hour in the morning then another hour in the afternoon. Before he used to ask for my cellphone so he could watch youtube or play zombies but now, he seldom asks and he also has a limit on how many minutes to use it. It was not easy at first since he had his own tablet back home so he cried when we did not allow him to use it. Afternoon, he sleeped, if not, he played his toys then hid if Daddy came. Every Friday, we went to the library for him to socialize with other kids and get used with the language. He speaks Tagalog but can understand Ilocano and English. That's why he is in daycare for 5 days to prepare him for the big school (prep) next year. You can also check nearby malls and libraries for their activities. Usually it's free of charge.

First Visit to the Library

First Activity in the Mall












Practice Writing










After he learned how to write, I started to teach him how to read. At first, I was doing sight words but later on, I tried phonics because they said it is easier for a child to remember later on. I started with two letters then 3 letters onwards. Also, if he asked to watch youtube or TV, I always told him to watch 'alphablocks' first for him to know how to read. We showed him videos of children reading for motivation. But these activities were only done if he is in the mood. Sometimes he would ask for a favor to play with him but I would tell him to do reading or writing first before I can play with him so that he'll do it (hehe).
These are his activity sets. For writing, he used the ones in the upper left hand picture. He had a writing pad too like the ones we use in the Philippines. But the crayola dryerase activity helped him a lot. It also has numbers. He learned reading numbers first before words like 'he', 'I', 'and' etc.

He started to love books when I told him a story about 'The Three Little Pigs' followed by 'Jack and the Beanstalk'. And now he has a collection. ($2 only in Big W or Kmart).

Now that my son is busy playing in his school, I keep myself busy applying and researching. Before, I kept myself busy with the markets however, since Philippine market is in sideways and I do not have a buying power yet, close port for the meantime (hehe). I started with ASX but as mentioned, I do not have that much buying power. Brokerage fees are expensive unlike in the Philippines. And now, I am busy writing .......

Don't underestimate yourself being a SAHM. There are a lot of opportunities when you are one. Browse the net and you'll find out.

If you can cook, explore and improve your cooking. Maybe you'll have an instant restaurant someday. If reading is your hobby, then maybe you'll become an author, editor, blogger, proof reader etc. someday. If you love kids or pets, you can become a professional babysitter or pet sitter or own a childcare/pet shop someday. So to all the SAHMs out there, let's give ourselves a pat in the back!! Also, let's not forget the working dads because they only not provide for the family but they will also be the financier (haha).

P.S. For me, time is fast here unlike in the Philippines where you can feel how slow the day is unless you are busy. Same with Singapore, time is fast too, but here it is more laid back. 


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